Looking for My Particular Brand of Unicorns
"There are talented actors of Persian or Middle Eastern descent in America. They would really like to play roles that do not involve terrorism. Us Middle Eastern people would like to see them play roles that do not involve terrorism. Why? Because media representation of our people fucking matters ... Because we're the ones who live the day to day reality of facing the ignorant stereotypes perpetuated by the media about our people. Because we're the ones who have to say with gritted teeth, no, I don't know any terrorists, or no, my family aren't fundamentalists, or no, that's a fucking offensive stereotype." - yasaman
Identity and Being a Person of Color
"My identity is based on stories, food, shared experiences, and all the things that make up culture. It's also really *specific*. ... All of that complexity and specificity is hand waved when I talk about the experiences of being a POC. I do think we share a lot of similar experiences, not the least of which is the toxicity of racism. That said, in the nitty gritty, there are differences in how racism is used to hurt us. More and more I'm feeling drawn towards talking to other POC about not just the things we share, but the ways in which it is different." - sparkymonster
Ethical Dating: Racist Interracial Relationships and Colorism
"Occasionally, interracial relationships are based on “exotic fetishism” of the “other.” The person of color becomes the embodiment of the majority person’s fetish. Instead of accepting the equality of the person of color, they become an object of what they desire. This has manifested itself in yellow fever (Asian fetish), the stereotype of the Latin lothario and the priapism of African-American men ... I’ll never forget the Jdate profile of a biracial Jewish (Black/Ashkenaz) male who explicitly stated that if the goal of a woman who persued him was to rebel from her Ashkenazi family, then they should seek a relationship elsewhere. I always wondered, what did he experience to make him state that so directly in his profile?" - A Mixedjewgirl World
Maunderings & Ponderings - My America
"My America is my sister living in a Chattanooga suburb in northwestern Georgia, just like thousands of other Mexicans.
My America is having nephews and nieces who are part Hawaiian, Chinese, Irish, Swedish, and Ashkenazi.
My America is having fewer and fewer people ask if my best friend's husband's family was okay with their marriage (because she's black).
... My America is larger than just one idea of who we should be." - hermetic
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