Busy Weekend

[chomiji]

The sis-in-law (the one who's married to a minister) had a rotten week: her employer is transferring her, with almost no notice, to a different facility, and as she runs a senior center (basically, daycare for senior citizens), it means leaving behind not only staff, but also clients. So she decided at virtually the last minute to come down (with our nephew in tow) and see the Young Lady's play (our daughter is crewing her school's not-quite-spring musical, Beauty and the Beast) Friday night, because she thought it would cheer her up. This meant I had to clean up the guest room, which was wall-to-wall wrapping paper bits and rolls still, from the last installment of Xmas. But when I got home, there was an Amazon box waiting: I have Samurai Deeper Kyo 27, xxxHolic 11 [thanks, megan!!], and Takumi-Kun 2!

Saturday I was not feeling well - malaise about sums it up - and nothing much happened except meals out (lunch at Oriental East, which has great dim sum and forgettable service; dinner at Austin Grill, which is quite good for a chain) and the week's grocery shopping. The Young Lady was crewing again and had to eat leftovers for dinner. Oh well - it builds character!

Sis-in-law left early Sunday morning, and then sanada came to visit! We had brunch at Jackie's (retro American cuisine in a groovy-funky 1960s industrial setting) and talked manga nonstop. A good dose of fangirling makes one feel ever so much better. Then we went and saw the matinee of the play ourselves. Energy level good, one or two really good performances, scenery very uneven (the Beast's castle was very, very good, the village scenery was pretty lame), costumes pretty nice (althought the dinner plates were awful), and the special effects were much fun ... during the Beast's transformation at the end, petals fell from the catwalks onto our heads. They were meant to be rose petals, but all I could think of was (a) Sakura of Doom and (b) Nanao dumping baskets of petals over Shunsui. And the casting was the usual marvellous Blair High School racial mix: Oriental Belle, African American Gaston, Hispanic (I think) Beast, and so on. Dinner was what the Mr. calls "the meat place" - Brazilian BBQ.

Comments

[0nolicious.livejournal.com]

_{(Smilla here on the new RP sockpuppet account, too busy multitasking to switch to the usual, pls. forgive any cognitive dissonance this causes, etc.)}

If it wasn't brought up, I'd probably forget you do slash. On a person-to-person level, it's a complete non-issue...until the subject is directly brought up.

See, I think this is the sort of thing that's at the root of what led to things going so uncomfortable last time. While it may not be an exclusive interest or something that's absolutely central to our sense of identity, Cho and I *are* slashers; Red and I *are* fanon/alternashippers. You may forget about that until somebody says something, uses a shippy icon, whatever, to remind you of that detail, but we don't forget it, because it's a part of who we are. And so when you talk about "slashers do X" or "non-canon shippers do Y", where the variables are generally some sort of negative judgement, it's very hard to look at that and think "oh, well, she doesn't mean ME personally", because we are part of that group you're condemning.

[meganbmoore.livejournal.com]

(Hmm...Ono from Antique Bakery? Or am I jumping to conclusions from the name?)

But for the rest...

By that token, then, should I assume that when you take a conversation with someone in my LJ into an area I know nothing about, I'm being deliberately excluded? Or that when you get fairly deep into BDSM talk, you're trying to see if you can make me uncomfortable? Or that when you talk about how much and why you dislike certain character types, I should take it as you're insulting my tastes if I like some characters I like? Because I don't. Just like I don't assume that Cho is trying to rub it in my face if she mentions Yukimura/Kyo, or uses her icon, or that Red is talking about me specifially when she talks about canon shippers being "u suck and we have canon so stuf u," nor do I think she's deliberately trying to draw me out when she comments to me with her anti-Mai icon, or her Zuko/Katara or Hakkai/Yaone icons. I assume you've found someone you can talk to something about, are discussing something you like, or are voicing your opinion. From what you said, though, I should take those things personally, and assume they're meant to be an attack on me, or to make me feel uncomfortable or excluded, instead of assuming that it's your opinion or likes that don't have anything to do with me, personally.