I Need to Avoid Facebook Most Nights

[chomiji]

Or set a timer or something.

It's a much more pernicious timewaster than LJ, and it's not as socially satisfying as chat.

I have an idea for this week's saiyuki_time challenge, I have things I could be blogging (my next book for the 50books_poc reading challenge, Black Lagoon, SDK 32, Reload 9), I have music links from smillaraaq that I could be chatting about (plus she's reading a book that I'd love to discuss some more).

And I have not done one iota of any of it!!!

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[chomiji]

I have a hardback copy somewhere! I will try to get on chat tonight if I can dig it up!

Shucks, I didn't realize that the pb copy was incomplete - I'm so sorry!

[meganbmoore.livejournal.com]

Pft. How could facebook possibly be as rewarding as chatting with Smilla and I. And, you know, other people you chat with that I don't know about.

*tries to remember if SDK 32 is one she has, or one that just came out and is waiting for another Tokyopop sale at Rightstuf*

[chomiji]

Sometimes avierra joins in the chat as well!

SDK 32 is Akira's big fight with That Person.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

What do you find face book more of a time drain?

fbook

[chomiji]

I think Facebook gives just enough feedback that I end up hanging around, clicking aimlessly on my friends' walls and profiles, waiting for more. With LJ I know I'm going to have to wait, so I go do other things, and with chat, it's much more like a real conversation.

Re: fbook

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

I see.

[avierra.livejournal.com]

I'm with Redbrunja, I guess I don't get Facebook maybe (it's very possible).

[chomiji]

Well, we've discussed that as shy as I am, I'm still more of a social butterfly - except that's still too bright and fluttery. Maybe a social moth?

(Speaking of which, I guess I'll be running around Katsu with my camera on Saturday.)

It's funny, the first time I ran into one of my old tormentors - it was when the Young Lady started grade school at our old school - I was astonished, because she was really really glad to see me. Not as much as a close friend that you've run into accidentally at an unexpected place, but certainly more than someone you know but don't really interact with at work. I spent a few days brooding over the fact that she seemed to have forgotten making my life hell when we were 9-10 yrs old, but it wasn't that hard to let go. She was a stupid little girl back then, probably with a hard-charging suburban mom at home, running every detail of her life, and it was more than 25 years previously. And now she was someone who had a big smile on her face for me every time we met, and she was working to make our kids' school better (she was a big PTA macher).

Ann Landers (yeah, I know ... ) once said “Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.” It does tend to play out that way, for me.

Anyway, I'm not pitching Facebook to anyone. It's helping satisfy my frequent "Gee, I wonder what happened to so-and-so?" moments, but I also get stuck on there, wasting time. It's like social junk food - it fools your appetite for a moment, making you think you're being nourished, but it's all empty calories, so you have to take more - and more - and more.

[chomiji]

>hugs<

>holds you<

I know I'm very fortunate that the only person whom I believe actually did me much damage was my poor messed up mother.

Please, if it sounds like I'm telling you how you should feel about something, never hesitate to let me know so that I can knock it off and apologize. I certainly was not intending to do so this time, and I'm deeply sorry if it came out that way.

[chomiji]

> hugs <

I hear you, sister mine.

[chomiji]

Facebook is like a cocktail party where you keep running into old friends, and you exchange little pleasantries and get each other hors d'oeuvres and cookies, but never have a real conversation.

The thing is, because it's my real name, I'm not going to get into serious stuff or my weirder hobbies. But I'm big into making connections, and there's just enough ofthat to keep me hanging around.

[redbrunja.livejournal.com]

I get why people like facebook, but it just seems a lot less fun than lj to me. For one, you don't have zillions of fun icons to play with, and secondly, no one seems to talk about fandom things.

I admit, though, it's a nice casual way to interact with people you know IRL.