It's funny, there was a thread on Fanfic_rants yesterday about mpreg fics, and a number of the writers there said pregnancy squicked them (not just mpreg). I never thought about women feeling that way. I don't mean anything by saying that, or to suggest that it is somehow women's destiny, I just didn't realize that some women were squicked, per se, by it. I just never thought about it, I guess.
I knew some men did though... I remember when I was pregnant I was sitting at the local music store waiting for my lesson, because towards the end Victoria would hook her foot under my ribs and kick the shit out of me (she thinks that she did that is totally awesome today, the little sadist ;P), and it hurt like hell for a few minutes, anyway, one of the guys there was watching my face, and he had the weirdest expression and he said "Is it kicking? I can't imagine what it's that's like, something moving inside of me like that" and I could tell he was totally repulsed.
I loved being pregnant though, and I loved how I felt. I had a number of problems with the pregnancy (and ended up with a c-section), but overall it was a very enjoyable experience for me. But, I was very motivated to have a child, and in fact went to extreme lengths to have one. I felt that it was something I needed and wanted to do.
So, I can totally understand that there is a converse to my own feelings, and I applaud people who make the decision that they are not parent material and who stick to their guns. I know there is tons of pressure from society and relatives to pump out kids; I would imagine it is difficult to resist. I know it from personal experience, and in our case it wasn't even because we didn't want kids (thereby adding to the pressure). There are too many people who aren't parent material, who have kids anyway, and I admire those who know they aren't and who decide to be the Fun Aunt or Uncle rather than a parent.
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Re: "Quick, someone call the Girl Police and file a report"
Date: 2008-05-14 07:08 pm (UTC)I knew some men did though... I remember when I was pregnant I was sitting at the local music store waiting for my lesson, because towards the end Victoria would hook her foot under my ribs and kick the shit out of me (she thinks that she did that is totally awesome today, the little sadist ;P), and it hurt like hell for a few minutes, anyway, one of the guys there was watching my face, and he had the weirdest expression and he said "Is it kicking? I can't imagine what it's that's like, something moving inside of me like that" and I could tell he was totally repulsed.
I loved being pregnant though, and I loved how I felt. I had a number of problems with the pregnancy (and ended up with a c-section), but overall it was a very enjoyable experience for me. But, I was very motivated to have a child, and in fact went to extreme lengths to have one. I felt that it was something I needed and wanted to do.
So, I can totally understand that there is a converse to my own feelings, and I applaud people who make the decision that they are not parent material and who stick to their guns. I know there is tons of pressure from society and relatives to pump out kids; I would imagine it is difficult to resist. I know it from personal experience, and in our case it wasn't even because we didn't want kids (thereby adding to the pressure). There are too many people who aren't parent material, who have kids anyway, and I admire those who know they aren't and who decide to be the Fun Aunt or Uncle rather than a parent.