Pick on Someone My Own Age ... ?

I was reading through all the wonderful (and fearful ...) things the folks on love_deeper had said about the various chapters of SDK as sanada had translated them last year, and I was once again seized with paralyzing shyness about trying to converse with them. If and when they figure out how old I actually am, will they react as though Mom has had the nerve to show up and try hanging out? >sigh<

Maybe they are such citizens of the WWW that they won't give a flying fart ... that would be nice. Still, I worry ... . It was the same thing on the Gaiman Board, but they are a slightly more aged crowd. There are several people more or less my age on that one. On the other hand, Shejidan (which just moved to a new ISP, startling me a bit), was always a thoroughgoing multigenerational group. What's the difference, I wonder? I guess C.J. Cherryh, as moderately hard SF, is always geekness, but Gaiman and manga are more trendy and attract a younger crowd? But at Balticon last year, the audiences for Gaiman's talks covered a satisfyingly large range of ages ... .

I've pursued links to people's individual LiveJournals from the Interests I filled out here, to see what other things the people that like things that I like, like ... >eyes cross< I've found several people who read piles of the same SF&F that I read, and they also read some manga. But most don't seem to belong to communities here. Inherent introversion? Assumption that the communities are for the kids? The various SF&F e-mailing lists that still exist seem to trend older, too. The Diana Wynne Jones mailing list, which I lurk faithfully, has quite an august subscribership. But it would be easier to chat with them if they had a board, or even a community!

Why can't all these lovely people get together somewhere where I can talk to all of them?