(Sorry to be coming back to this so late ... sometimes there really aren't enough hours in a day, and we had a busy weekend, with house guests.)
Well, if I want to vent about someone who might read it, or about work, I f-lock it. Generally, if discussing things or arguing won't make the situation better, I don't want to do it. And there are a number of really sweet, wonderful people here on LJ who get firmly attached to their particular soap-boxes, and nothing I can say or do is going to change that.
Thanks for being understanding. Sometimes I feel like a wimp, but this is something I do for fun, dammit, and arguing isn't something I enjoy (took years for my husband to really understand that).
I like books with female protagonists sometimes ... it depends on how they're written. Are you familiar with Rumer Godden? Her China Court is one of my favorite books ever, and yet it's a romance/family history: on the face of it, one of the girliest types of things one could imagine. I'm also very fond of National Velvet, a typical adolescent girls' fave.
>> Well, that is true for me as well, but I know why it is, in my case. While I was growing up, I was judged by my female peers, and not by males. That is, the girls were very frequently catty, cliquish bitches, and the guys would interact with me as if I was a fellow human being. Consequently, all of my friends throughout my childhood and adolescence (and even now, really) were male.<<
Oh, you too, huh? :-) Yes, that was pretty exactly my situation. I sometimes had a single female friend at a time, but that was very special and rare when it happened. (And then she'd move away, or go to another school, or something - it never lasted long.) But usually it was guys - guys who treated me like one of them, or guys who decided they could confide in me, and told me all their troubles, or both. Honestly, it feels so weirdly good to have female friends to talk with about this stuff - I'm afraid to breathe, sometimes, because maybe all of you will evaporate without warning!
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(Sorry to be coming back to this so late ... sometimes there really aren't enough hours in a day, and we had a busy weekend, with house guests.)
Well, if I want to vent about someone who might read it, or about work, I f-lock it. Generally, if discussing things or arguing won't make the situation better, I don't want to do it. And there are a number of really sweet, wonderful people here on LJ who get firmly attached to their particular soap-boxes, and nothing I can say or do is going to change that.
Thanks for being understanding. Sometimes I feel like a wimp, but this is something I do for fun, dammit, and arguing isn't something I enjoy (took years for my husband to really understand that).
I like books with female protagonists sometimes ... it depends on how they're written. Are you familiar with Rumer Godden? Her China Court is one of my favorite books ever, and yet it's a romance/family history: on the face of it, one of the girliest types of things one could imagine. I'm also very fond of National Velvet, a typical adolescent girls' fave.
>> Well, that is true for me as well, but I know why it is, in my case. While I was growing up, I was judged by my female peers, and not by males. That is, the girls were very frequently catty, cliquish bitches, and the guys would interact with me as if I was a fellow human being. Consequently, all of my friends throughout my childhood and adolescence (and even now, really) were male.<<
Oh, you too, huh? :-) Yes, that was pretty exactly my situation. I sometimes had a single female friend at a time, but that was very special and rare when it happened. (And then she'd move away, or go to another school, or something - it never lasted long.) But usually it was guys - guys who treated me like one of them, or guys who decided they could confide in me, and told me all their troubles, or both. Honestly, it feels so weirdly good to have female friends to talk with about this stuff - I'm afraid to breathe, sometimes, because maybe all of you will evaporate without warning!