It's very different ... you feel all those are part of the real you. I feel that any masks I've put on - successful student, my parents' (especially my mother's) daughter, suburban mom, dutiful employee - aren't me, and I resent them, and only put them on because the alternative was worse.
Yeah, I was the good, dutiful daughter (until I wasn't, then I was crap), the good student, my husband's "enfrau" (his mom is German), and now I am "Victoria's mom." I guess I don't resent them so much as regard them with bemusement It seems like I have spent a substantial portion of my life trying to not live up to other people's expectations, only my own, which started with my refusing to be the dutiful daughter anymore. Of course, when you abandon that type of mask, then there are consequences for that too.
that's the business with Red and her attitude toward both my slash habit and my fondness for books with male protagonists, all over again.
This bothered me a bit... at the risk of speaking out of turn, I don't think one should self-censor based on someone's possible reactions. I also like m/m, and guys as protagonists. I am a straight woman, and I already know what it's like to be a woman and have a female perspective. It's like Jerry Seinfeld saying, "Why would I be a leg man, I HAVE legs." Plus, hot guys, doing hot guy things. Mmmmmm. But I digress, I was gonna say, I think if people don't like what one writes, they are free to hit the back button.
Although, I guess I should practice what I preach, my only filter has one person on it, my neighbor, who is a pagan who lists polyamory on her interests and so on; and yet the thought of her reading some of my more lurid entries makes me squirm a bit. I never have used it, but I still kind of wonder what she thinks when I review/discuss some of my yaoi books or manga. ;P Still, we're still friends, our kids play together, and she hasn't said a word about it one way or the other, so I guess she doesn't judge.
There was an interesting discussion over at Smart Bitches Trashy Books about f/f, slash and het and so on. It started off as a discussion about f/f romances being discriminated against and not published and quickly morphed in other directions, one of which was why many women prefer m/m to f/f. I do for the reason above... hot guys are hot to me; hot women are not so hot, that's just the way it is. For me. I also read trashy romance books (one of my dirty not-so-secrets ;) ), so het also works, haha. :D Although, I think recently I have become more interested in m/m. Perhaps it has an air of the forbidden about it that also appeals. (I hate people telling me what to do.)
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Yeah, I was the good, dutiful daughter (until I wasn't, then I was crap), the good student, my husband's "enfrau" (his mom is German), and now I am "Victoria's mom." I guess I don't resent them so much as regard them with bemusement It seems like I have spent a substantial portion of my life trying to not live up to other people's expectations, only my own, which started with my refusing to be the dutiful daughter anymore. Of course, when you abandon that type of mask, then there are consequences for that too.
that's the business with Red and her attitude toward both my slash habit and my fondness for books with male protagonists, all over again.
This bothered me a bit... at the risk of speaking out of turn, I don't think one should self-censor based on someone's possible reactions. I also like m/m, and guys as protagonists. I am a straight woman, and I already know what it's like to be a woman and have a female perspective. It's like Jerry Seinfeld saying, "Why would I be a leg man, I HAVE legs." Plus, hot guys, doing hot guy things. Mmmmmm. But I digress, I was gonna say, I think if people don't like what one writes, they are free to hit the back button.
Although, I guess I should practice what I preach, my only filter has one person on it, my neighbor, who is a pagan who lists polyamory on her interests and so on; and yet the thought of her reading some of my more lurid entries makes me squirm a bit. I never have used it, but I still kind of wonder what she thinks when I review/discuss some of my yaoi books or manga. ;P Still, we're still friends, our kids play together, and she hasn't said a word about it one way or the other, so I guess she doesn't judge.
There was an interesting discussion over at Smart Bitches Trashy Books about f/f, slash and het and so on. It started off as a discussion about f/f romances being discriminated against and not published and quickly morphed in other directions, one of which was why many women prefer m/m to f/f. I do for the reason above... hot guys are hot to me; hot women are not so hot, that's just the way it is. For me. I also read trashy romance books (one of my dirty not-so-secrets ;) ), so het also works, haha. :D Although, I think recently I have become more interested in m/m. Perhaps it has an air of the forbidden about it that also appeals. (I hate people telling me what to do.)